How To Emotionally Detach From Work?

We all have been attached to something or the other. For some it may be their family, while for others it would be the career. To some extent all kinds of attachments are good. It is usually these attachments which slowly define ourselves. Same goes for your career. There is no harm in being known as a writer, doctor or whatever your profession is as long as it is the only thing that defines you. With years of work or study you may tend to be so emotionally attached to your work that a slight dissatisfaction in it would ruin your whole mood. Because there is a tendency to link the work and productivity with self-worth. On the negative side it would haunt you forever. Like if you lose your job, you may feel that you have lost your identity.

Psychologists had done years of research on this topic and came up with different conclusions. One accepted hypothesis was that high emotional attachment to work may make the person harder to accept useful feedback and criticisms. It is the same when we get too much attached with a significant person in life. A slight criticism from their side will become unbearable. The fact being that such emotional attachment would give you more harm than benefits.

Research has shown that when people do not regularly detach from work, there is a very real cost in terms of depletion of mental and physical energy (Ten Brummelhuis &Bakker, 2012). Getting too much involved in the work, consistently checking out the phone calls, ruminating about all the issues may gradually deteriorate your personal and social relationships.

This is something that needs some effort from the part of the individual. Here are a few tips on how to do it effectively:

Create a boundary

Here is where, most of the people fail. Whenever a task is not finished they try to bring it home and finish off. And in most of the conditions, neither the work at home gets finished not the work from job. This will ultimately give you more pressure and burden. Some would come and shut the doors for outside work and continue the work and eventually gets detached from others. Hence, always keep in mind to create your own boundaries, no matter how hard it seems.

Work is not life rather a part of it

Doing your work with dedication is good. It would definitely increase your productivity at job. As you flourish in your work there is a tendency to make it your identity. And in the process of transformation people often forget that they have other roles to play. Getting a promotion may give you a hike in salary but what about the hike in personal life? According to Maslow’s theory of needs, esteem needs only comes after the love needs.

Get enough breaks

If you try to do the same thing consecutively for 21 days it becomes your habit. And such habits may be formed knowingly or unknowingly. Later, taking a deviation needs a voluntary effort. Your emotional attachment to work is not a factor of two days, it would have grabbed a position in your brain for quite a long time. In order to kick it out from the position, you need to take a break from your regular routine work at least for few minutes and indulge in something more interesting and refreshing. This would also help you in reducing the stress you face at workplace.

Learn to be objective

It is something which we should develop despite of what the situation is. Taking things personally is of no use since, world is not in our control. If a coworker doesn’t like you, there is no need to develop grudge against him/her. They might be having their own reasons or it might be the situation which lead them to perceive things like that. If your boss doesn’t accept the proposal which you made then it might be because he didn’t like the proposal and not you. Develop such habits from home itself. And try to figure things out in an objective state of mind.

Sleep and diet

It is not directly related to the detachment process. But according to studies it can reduce the amount of stress and anxiety at job which is a major reason for emotional attachment at work. An adult should have an average 7 to 9 hours of sleep for the best performance. It is also important to take a 15 minutes nap whenever you feel burnout so as to feel relaxed. Along with good sleep, it is important to have good nutritious food involved in your diet.

More than that try to spend your time in more productive activities. You can even practice some relaxation techniques so that you can be more mature both emotionally and psychologically.